Hi Debi,
I have been away from the forum; yet, have been thinking of you and your family.
Just catching up on your thread.
I watch my mother adjust to the loss of my stepdad. She shares a home with me and with my husband for now. My stepdad had passed 3 years ago. It's been a very difficult time for her. She is doing much better now, yet it's still an adjustment for her to be without her husband. I see and feel her pain, often. I just hold her and tell her I know she misses him. I miss him very much too, yet it's such a deep loss for a spouse.
I look at my husband, as we are your age, and wonder what I would do without him. He has been my very best friend since we'd met. Our friendship runs so deep and has never wavered.
I hope you will be more comfortable on all levels, soon.
Much Love to You and to Your Family,
DejaVu