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Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Georgia
Posts: 905
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Member
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Georgia
Posts: 905
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Dear Ravenclaw
I do understand what you are going through. And from my experience it is normal.
I just lost my husband of 35 years on Aug 30th......2 months ago. I'm only 53 and knowing all the lonely years ahead makes me sick at my stomach.
He had surgery in May of this year but never in a million years did I think we would lose him. Sounds like you are feeling exactly as I did for weeks after he passed. I wish I had that feeling back.
I had done my crying but at his 2 month passing mark this past Friday I just lost it. Cried on and off Fri, Sat and yesterday. I was on auto pilot for so long these feelings are very hard to deal with.
What I can tell you is that whatever you are feeling, whenever you are feeling them is normal. No one grieves the same.
I am so sorry you are having to go through this terrible time but so very glad you are there to hold him and love him. I wish I had known my husband would last less than 48 hours in Hospice. I would have done things differently.
So let him know how much you love him and just be there by his side. It will help you when the time comes that you were right there offering your love and support.
Please keep us posted on how you are doing. We care about you and I don't know what I would have done without these wonderful people on NT. They have gotten me through these 2 months along with my kids and grandkids.
Hugs to you dear Ravenclaw 
Debi from Georgia
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