NurseNancy, I have no direct experience of Gastric Bypass Surgery but am a member of the staff team of another world-wide mental health support forum.

A member there may be in a similar position to you. She (as others here have alluded to) has been told by her prospective surgeon that before Gastric Bypass Surgery can be considered she will need to lose a designated amount of weight by a designated time, see a registered dietitian regularly about her food intake and also see a mental health professional who has experience of working with clients who have weight issues regularly.

I do not intend this to be discouraging - just things for you to consider.

All the best.