Hello and welcome Joanne,
It's no wonder that you are feeling overwhelmed and having difficulty processing everything. It sounds like a lot has happened to you. It takes time.
In addition to the video suggested by Little Paw and Bio (I agree Bio I have notes too), one of the most helpful threads for me on this board was "lifesavers." So many good suggestions and all the way through it I kept thinking that I had found people who understand. I felt less alone. That's one of the best things about this community is the feeling that others get it. I'm glad you have reached out. Take care, mama mac