Enjoying your life in the world and focusing on those you love are the best reasons to miss a message! Congratulations on your anniversary.
I am glad your ortho is sticking with you.
I had another thought on your fusion... Has any consideration been given to biphosphinates? You mentioned them and I was thinking about the difficulty of laying new bone both with CRPS and non-weightbearing. These medications inhibit osteoclasts (bone eaters) and encourage osteoblasts (bone layers). I have no idea if something like that might help but since they do with osteopenia and osteporosis it might be an idea to try. Oral alendronate has shown some promise with CRPS in studies and should be fairly reasonable cost wise.
You can certainly ask medical records at U of M about restricted access. At the hospital system I worked in this was not a problem.