Hi zinnia,
Kuddos to you!
That's the way it was explained to me. To except that "It is what it is" and find a way to deal with it.
I do puzzles myself. I am also fortunate to have been raised in Native American ways and seek the spiritual side of life.
You sound like you've been able to find solace in your fight with this monster that wrecks our lives.
Learning to except and cope is important in the battle...
Be well...