It should be a combination of yourself, your Dad and his Mental Health Care Team that decides where, and what, support he needs. You are clearly going above and beyond in the most difficult of circumstances - all for love.

I do think it a very good idea that you approach your Dad's Psychiatrist for advice about Therapy for yourself. He may also know of Care Schemes whereby you could get a few hours respite for yourself.

Whatever has happened, or happens in the future, please do not lay guilt upon yourself for your actions or any inactions. No-one can compel another to act in any way other than how they choose to.

Dave.