But have you ever considered "not wearing a bra"? Braless?
(sorry Mel couldn't resist!)
Ok let's get serious here-
After you take a hot shower are you able to manuever your shoulder a bit better? If you can Mel maybe you can put the bra on then?
I have the same problem with my shoes, my son has to help me do the laces up sometimes or zip the boot,and I feel terrible about that.
You also mentioned Victoria's secret twice. How about jsu going to Victoria's secret for a sexy front one?