I think throwing oneself a pity party every now and then is in everyone's arsenal for coping in life. No matter where one falls on the spectrum of life's troubles and suffering, there will always be people on both sides, better off, and worse.

It matters NOT where one falls on the spectrum, everyone is entitled to feel sad about their own plight from time to time. Not only do I think it is normal, I think it is also beneficial at times. As long as we see it for what it is, .... a temporary pity party, and we don't get stuck there, then have yourself a really good pity party. And when it is done, you will rise up and continue your fight to live your life the best you can under whatever your circumstances.

I wonder why we feel so humiliated when we exhibit our physical limitations in public, but we do. I limit my trips to the grocery store to about once a month since they cause so much pain. There have been times when I had to sit on the floor in the aisle of the grocery and dodge and hope I was not run over by others with their grocery carts. People would walk by and just look at me OR they wouldn't even see me and almost run over me with their grocery basket. Not only was I embarrassed, but was also amazed at how little anyone cared. No one bothered to ask if I needed help.

It is not always just the physical pain that we deal with but the emotional pain that we experience, too. When you start to stack a lot of things upon each other, as happened to you recently, there is no other way to cope with it all but to have a good old fashioned pity party. Never apologize for taking your own needs and feelings into consideration. They are valid and justified. As long as you don't stay too long at the party, those pity parties can be helpful.

Just my opinion.