Jerie,
I don't know that there is any way for you to get out of being in the database. It differs state by state, though as we know, nationwide access is in process.
As I understand it was created to reduce prescription addiction and diversion which usually occurs at the consumer/retail level.
I've attached the Log in screen for the state of Texas' database which clearly lists the statute of access at the bottom. You can see it covers pretty much everyone and since it's statutory I don't see how it's avoidable....
https://www.texaspatx.com/login.aspx
I agree that it feels intrusive but I do understand why we have it.
Getting a progress note for visits is not a bad idea. Mistakes are not uncommon and nuances can be hard to detail with the check off forms healthcare providers have to use for electronic records.