Tips or advice - don't bother trying to tiptoe round his male ego because you are wasting your time.

I've been a reader and poster on these boards since before you joined and I've read all the various posts over the years where you have described your partner's behaviour towards you. His treatment of you has been deeply insensitive and he has repeatedly demonstrated that he's not interested in understanding your CRPS. Its obvious he doesn't really care about your needs, your feelings or the restrictions your disability imposes on you. There are people who would describe his behaviour towards you as emotional or psychological abuse.

I know that there will be good times too and obviously you have your reasons for staying and putting up with the cruel ways he has spoken too you and treated you based on things you've mentioned in older posts. I wouldn't be prepared to stay and put up with someone who cared so little about me. Given that I have to live with severe pain and all the other nightmare things CRPS has done to my peripheral nervous system plus the severe movement disorders I also have as a result of the mess its made of my central nervous system, I'd expect to be treated with understanding and kindness when I was struggling to do the kind of stuff 'normal' women do. In fact, I''d expect to be treated with understanding and kindness regardless of my health problems and disability. You have every right to expect and demand the same.

The fact that he can make a comment like that after you've explained how your CRPS is affecting you demonstrates complete selfishness and its clear he is only interested in himself and his sexual gratification. If he cared about you, he just wouldn't make a comment like that. However, he won't change. He isn't going to become more interested in your needs nor will he become less selfish. This is how it will be which is why I don't see any point in you tip-toeing round his male ego.

Perhaps you could inflict CRPS equivalent pain on his 'sensitive male ego' by tip-toeing right on top of it and then ask him why he doesn't make more effort with his genital appearance and hygiene!!