Joannetb,

You made some great points. What I was trying to get across is the need to self-examine how we communicate and realize that what we think we are saying is not what others are hearing, often because we have context to the comment in our mind but that context is not passed on to others. I know this because it was one of my biggest struggle. I would expect others to understand my context without explaining my context. It was part of my intensity of my thought processes.

The issue for people to understand is a very common PCS symptom is "Rigidity of thought." This can manifest where we have a very defined meaning to what we are saying but others can be at a loss. This also can result in wanting a specific answer that fits that context so when others respond, we may try to force fit their answer into that rigid context.

It is why I have learned to use the word 'likely' and other words of probability to reduce the rigidity of my comments. Unfortunately, many do not see these words as they read.

When we accept that we may be exhibiting rigidity of thought and projecting that rigidity on others to negative benefit, choosing to try to change can be beneficial. But, it is a tough issue because the natural response is rarely the better response.

Believe me, I know this issue because my thought process was Black and White in High Definition 3D. It has taken a lot to soften to my current level of intensity. I know it would help if I could lower my intensity more. I'm trying.