[The normal diameter of the cervical spinal canal is between 17 mm and 18 mm. When this diameter falls below 12 mm to 14 mm for any reason this is likely to cause stenosis and myelopathic symptoms. The average diameter of the spinal cord in the cervical spine is 10 mm.]
http://www.boneandjoint.org.uk/conte...cal-myelopathy

Have you had any expert PT at all?
To see if it can help with pain & posture?

http://www.spineuniverse.com/conditi...pinal-stenosis
http://emedicine.medscape.com/article/1913265-treatment


[ neurologist who told me if I whiplashed my neck I could become paralyzed! ]

That seems to be a scare tactic to me, even if might be true the chance of it actually happening is very rare.
I don't know that I would go back to any doctor that states something like that without clarifying or explaining the odds of it happening.
Feels like a scare tactic to get a person to jump into surgery fast..

Take your time and research for best drs & surgeons , and if other treatments may benefit you before any surgery.