Alaina,

It seems like we might have a similar situation. My husband is retired and home most of the time. We are together almost 24/7. He must have pain at times; but he never complains.

While I want to not complain too much; at times I hear myself. My problem; he doesn't say anything.....I mean nothing; not a word about my complaining. He just goes about whatever....reading the paper; looking on the internet, etc. When I really think about it; because of my condition, both our lives have greatly change.....We don't go out very often, no vacations, etc.

Then I start feeling a bit sorry for him and try to cheer him up or say something to get him to smile. At times, I even get a"hug". I miss the old me as much as he probably does too.

The same appears to be true for you and your husband. In spite of the downers; the love is still there. When we get down they appear to as well. Just in a different way.


Please know as you are here for everyone; we are here for you.

Gerry