boy sue, there is the narcicist [i know i spelled that wrong] in every family and your sister is yours. i feel so badly that you have to live with her. no one needs to be abused with those words every day. i know you say you can handle it, but you should not have to. i know what you mean about feeling badly for her son. he, of course, expects her to love him and feel for him and she is just not capable. i think you have done your work through the years with him, and that is the best you can do. just reinforce that she is not capable of empathy for some sad reasons. maybe his doctor can get him into therapy and he can talk to someone else? an outside opinion could be priceless. he will learn with age but it is a hurtful lesson for sure. my prayers for you all. joan