Thanks you guys!
I felt so much better about the whole thing after reading your posts. I wish my nephew would just get on here one day, I know it would help him. I know that my sister is never going to change. She always wants to be the victim. One day it could be her headache, the next her back is hurting. The only difference between her and me (and my nephew) is that when she thinks no one is looking, she is fine. I don't expect to her to thank me for bringing up her son. I had to bring her up to. My mother was always working. I am the oldest of 4, she is the baby. My other sister has RSD also. She has always has had a very mild case, but she understands what Iam talking about and never puts me down. Iam hoping that if I just stick be Ray and be there for him, he will get through this. At least I can listen and not judge him.
You are all great as always.

Love Sue K.