Pam,
I am so sorry to hear that you are having problems with DB. As Kiwi said, you need to look after yourself first and foremost. DB does not seem to be there for you, and look after you in those times you need him. I am in a similar situation myself, and realize how draining a relationship like this can be, both physically and emotionally. Perhaps things will change after DB has been sober for some more time. Hopefully he will start to realize how much of a DB he has been and begin to change for both of your needs. Whatever happens, you have the support of so many here on NT.
Healing hugs
I hope your injuries heal fast without any long term complications.