Oh, yes, Melody. It MUST be very difficult to give and give and give and never get anything in return, like a tad bit of gratitude.

Giving and giving isn't the hard part (if physically capable), but it is also such an emotional drain when your spouse seems to take you for granted when you keep pouring out care.

No one likes to feel like they are being "used". Many people gladly give and give with no expectations of anything in return, except maybe some gratitude. Just a simple THANK YOU goes a long way.

Has Alan always been so insensitive to your feelings?

Yes, you DO need to take care of YOURSELF, too. Alan is not the only person in this equation.

If Alan improves with the on-going acupuncture treatments, maybe he will be able to do a little more for himself, saving you physically and emotionally from extensive care giver role you have undertaken.

I hope YOU, too, will feel better as you go through the coming weeks.