Thank you ladies :group hug:
It does feel better to get it out Bizi
I just reread my last 2 posts and was surprised I didn't even mention my husband clogged the toilet yesterday and when I woke up to pee the toilet overflowed when I flushed it, so I had to sop up all the water and bleach the toilet and floor
before 6am. I decided to bleach out the rest of the bathroom later so I could cross that off my list of things to do.
I kept myself busy in other ways, too. My big project was cleaning the car. It hadn't been cleaned in about 2 yrs so it was
disgusting! I had a hard time because the dash is textured so it's not perfect, but the difference is amazing! That killed about 2hrs.
When my husband came home he started talking to me immediately in a friendly way. It was clear that he wanted to pretend the fight never happened. I let it go, having no desire to perpetuate any kind of argument. 10 minutes in, he said, "It's official, I have Wednesday off." I thanked him. Obviously he was sorry but was not going to own up to it.
I did ask him how he felt because of how much he drank. In a neutral way I worked in the amount of vodka he drank and how quickly he drank it, but I did say, "You did a lot of damage in less than 3 hours." He said he felt okay, but was shocked when he woke up and saw the bottle in the morning. I left it at that. Later I mentioned in conversation I was 9 months sober. He was unresponsive to that.
When he wen to bed, he said goodnight and gave me a kiss. He also did something a little different… he took hold of my wrist and gave it a little squeeze. I took it as a little I'm sorry/I love you/thank you for letting me off the hook kind of thing.
I'm sure that there are plenty of women who would disagree with my handling of the situation, and would argue that I should have pushed to resolve the issues instead of ignoring them, but I'm just glad that there is peace again. I'm a big fan of denial in general.
I'm considering going to the club today, but haven't gotten into the shower yet. I'm trying to decide if it's too late to get going or not.