((((((Barbara)))))),
I wrote you in the BP forum. But, another layer of hugs sure can't hurt
You can't see it yet 'cause you're right on top of it, but, you've changed a lot. For the better, I might add

Much more open. Much more caring. Your writing is absolutely soul-stirring.
You *KNOW* we all stand beside you while you help your friend on his journey.
I knew way back that Doug saw through all the fear and the 'history' to see the real treasure that you are. I'm glad he's allowing you to help him.
BIG HUGS (and love).
Barb