This must be very difficult for you as well as causing mixed emotions about the ashes. Since both you and your ex both paid a share for each of the sons funerals and cremations; would it be possible to ask him if he had any objections placing the ashes in your family plot? Since you already have a family plot, he may think this is a good idea. As far as the memorials; that would probably be an individual choice for each of you.

Should he have any objections; then I would think you may want to make the offer to him regarding half the ashes.

I hope you can come to a mutual agreement so you may at least have this stress settled and some peace of mind.


Gerry