Debi, thank you for sharing, and yes I read your whole post. Sharing is sometimes cathartic don't you think. I cried reading it, for you, for your loss and for your love. My DB is home ill today and yesterday. I'm going up to the front room right now just to hug him.

As for intimacy, I think many of us face that challenge - including those who are not suffering with chronic pain and or depression. I don't believe it's a conscious choice, it's like you wake up one day and think wow, when was the last time! You make a pact with yourself to make more of an effort and then wonder when the energy to make the effort will come from! At least I do anyway. I'm off for that hug now, no shades of grey though!!!!