hi zinnia and catra. i had rsd for over five years now and have learned that it takes some trial and error and time to learn what my limits are with rsd. and even with that it is not always easy to tell how much i can do because rsd is so unpredictable by causing me different levels of pain every day. some days when the pain is lower then others i might try to do a little more but then pay for it for days afterwards and stay in bed to try to get the pain level to lower a little and gain some of my strength back. i have learned to take it a day at a time and to not over do on lower pain days so that i don't pay for it on the days the follow when the pain may get worse. it sounds like you are both learning to listen to your bodies and your instincts and get the much needed bed rest you need to feel a little better and i hope you both start to feel better soon. take good care of yourselves. sending soft hugs both your ways.