Pamela, I use Step 1 in what Icehouse has suggested a lot.

For me it is a list, stuck to the noticeboard above this laptop. They are all people who have "invested TIME in me". They include my wife, my extended family, my health care team and my trusted friends.

I really value them all for their non-judgmental care and support. I am not meaning to imply that they would not respectfully call me out if they if they felt that I was not being honest with them - they did and this happened a bit in the early days, which I appreciated.

I think about them every day. It helps that they all enjoy my company way more now that I am sober compared to when I was not.

Maybe something along these lines might help DB?