RSD....
I think zinnia's suggestion to check out Stepchat.com in the area for Al-Anon might be helpful to you in dealing with your brother's choice to remove his family from his life at this time.

It's a choice he has made and I pray he will soon come back to his family where he knows in his heart; there is love.

But until then, you need to allow yourself to find a way to learn how to deal with this. I think Al-Anon would be very helpful. Because of Al-Anon, my cousin found herself better able to accept there was nothing she could do about her son; except of course; prayer. But, Al-Anon did help her deal with it in a way that she was able to not hurt so deeply and better be able to fulfill her daily needs for herself and others. I hope you give it a try. With this site, you would not even have to leave the house.

Praying both for you and your brother.


Gerry