(((((David)))))

I don't know much about advising others in situations yet like people on here describe. However, I believe from what you say you and your wife don't have trouble communicating when you do. I think perhaps it may help if you told your wife what you said here. Your wife is your sould mate and I believe together both of you should work together on these things. I'm just not a firm believer in marriage counseling.

You don't have to apologize about drinking either. Sometimes though when we use booze or any other thing to self medicate we can become dependant on it so please be careful. I like what other things people have said also. I hope you feel better today and let us know how you're doing today.

befuddled2