Hi Alaina,
I have just read though this thread.
I am very sorry for all of the pain you have endured.
I hope this has led to changes, although difficult at the time, which may prove very helpful in the longer run?
I have been away from NT, somewhat overwhelmed with life, too.
In time, we all do better after the pain of the realizations, the insights, the changes, the loss and grieving... and moving on.
Please do give yourself plenty of self-compassion and time to grieve your loss with your husband. It all takes time.
((((((((( Alaina )))))))))))))
Offering Much Love and Support Your Way, wherever you are right now.
Let's trust all is working out for your highest good.
You are on my heart.
Love All Around,