I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. I've had many of these issues in the past...though not all of them. One tip I learned from another on this board that helped me...particularly with increased pain from certain noises and stress...is to use earbuds and listen to soothing music on my iPod. The ear buds were key to this for some reason as I tried just listening on the speaker and it didn't help. I have what I call my flare up playlist...it's instrumental songs...many from some of my favorite movies and tv shows. I can put my earbuds in, close my eyes, and it really does help. I don't know if you've tried this before but I have found it helpful where nothing else did. Obviously doesn't address all the issues either...but I figure anything is better than nothing. I can post my playlist if you're interested in the types of songs I use on my flare up playlist.