tkrik:
Good advice. An Abdominal binder/surgical support would be a good idea. I had a fairly large abdominal incision with my rectal/colon surgery. You "hit the nail on the head" about the hernias. This past November, I had three Ventral Incisional Hernias repaired. Since I am on meds, I also strain a lot because of constipation; but strain in general can produce these abdominal incisional hernias.

doydie:
This might be worth looking into. I was not aware at the time of my rectal surgery that abdominal hernias could occur due to the incision and straining. Unfortunately, after hernias are repaired; recurrence is a problem. Elevating the mattress or a recliner might make getting in an out easier.

I completely understand the separate bedrooms. (Do you remember the song;"What's Love Got to Do With It" ?) We need our sleep too...


Gerry