So many go into relationships and keep working for the brighter side and work on that for all their marriage, my mom hung in for 63 yrs of a pretty bleak relationship. Just talking to a friend and both her daughters have been hanging in with their marriages and now headed for divorce court. The 2 different brain sets. The movie the War of the Roses comes to my mind. Relationships are tough tough tough. When I hear a good one, I applaud. My daughter got so sick "hanging in". I hope this hasn't gotten OT, but it's the two different brains.