DB has applied for leave over Xmas / NY, hopes to go home n see his Da who has Parkinson's disease and is deteriorating, he turned 75 on the 15th. I won't be able to go, too far to fly, I'll stay home & mind the pets. DB is concerned re sobriety, I suggested talk to his psych but isn't it better to see your da now & hopefully maintain sobriety rather than go after he's passed and probably not. Maybe going now will give him the strength to deal with what's inevitable. He can't live his life on hold forever. Time will tell, another day under his belt, 372 since a bender 234 since a drink ( I think) but he will never tell me for sure. So 372 since a bender gives me hope. Tough days in the house right now, I've annoyed him to high heaven not intentionally. Oh well today my thought is "so what" maybe I'm growing too.