Pam,
As you write; DB can't put his life on hold indefinitely. It would be good for him to visit with his father while he is still able; that won't stay "on hold" either. I can understand DB not telling whether or not he has had a drink. Very personal to him. It's probably his way of not risking disappointing you if you don't know for sure.

I know what you mean having annoyed DB; unintentionally. Not sure you have the same disease I have ...it's called "foot in mouth". I am too often saying or doing something that has upset my husband; I get the quite/silent treatment. I try to guess what it is that I did or said......

And "yes"; we are all still growing; for sure....


Gerry