That was one of the other things that made the NH trip so important for us to go on. Not only is my aunt a grade school teacher of near 30 years now, but her husband is also a lawyer for child and family service up there. My other uncle who we went to visit while up there is a recently retired school OT specialist and he brought along my 2nd cousin Linda had worked as a pediatric nutritionalist for 20 years. My uncle's husband only worked for insurance companies and has limited experience with kids but did great keeping them entertained while the rest of us talked shop about the GS and even the GD who had heart surgery when she was about 6 months old to repair some holes congenital holes in her heart.

Census from all was a case of pure neglect. GS showed willingness to try a large variety of foods, was very concerned about when the next meal would be before deciding he was finished with whatever he was eating, responded quickly to any correction in his behavior... Too quickly for a 4 yr old child, and while it would be here say in court there was always a flash of fear and flinch when first corrected which means he was probably physically reprimanded as his sole discipline when with his father.

But while there are no blood ties between my family and the grandbabies, everyone has offered to submit a written testimony should it be required by the courts, including my uncle's husband as in entertaining the kids the GS said he loved Nama because she didn't spank him as much as daddy does, and she has lots and lots and lots of food! As he listed off the 6 small meals: breakfast then a snack then we still get lunch and when the GD wakes up we get ANOTHER snack then we have dinner and even after dinner we get dessert!

No 4 year old should be shocked by that kind of feed schedule... That's just what they need at that age and really should be the norm till they're in highschool... Best if they keep it for life but at his age it's simply what is required for healthy growth. And he wasn't given chips and ice cream or cookies, it was all REAL food, carrots and cereal (without sugar added ) fruits and nuts, baby greens I mean real food that was unprocessed went to the table as it came from the farm pretty much.