I colored my hair. This was my first time trying to hide grays (really whites). I bought "natural light brown" but it ended up coming out brassy anyway… I absolutely hate it. I see my hairdresser of thirty years at noon today and will ask her when it's safe to recolor, and if she has any tips. Hopefully I didn't screw it up so badly that she has to fix it. I can't afford a professional job right now.


When my husband came home from work yesterday he apologized for Sunday and said he would never do that again. He said he slept from 5pm Sunday night straight through to 3:30am Monday morning when his alarm went off, and he woke up still feeling drunk, and considered calling in sick to work.

At 1am this morning, he yelled at me to wake up… he couldn't sleep and felt the need to share that with me. He was too hot and in a panic about it. He was frustrated because I was out of it and slurring my words, and didn't find any of my suggestions like turning up the fan in the bedroom, or trying to sleep on the couch in the AC helpful.

He got out of bed, had a massive temper tantrum, and said he wanted to punch the wall. I said "don't you dare." He warned me not to test him, and threw the laundry hamper against the wall forcefully a few times instead.

He went to sit on the couch in the living room and I went followed. I looked up the outside temperature on the weather app on my phone, which said it was 66, and asked if the window was open. He never even checked… it wasn't, so he opened it. A little while later we returned to bed. I don't know if he got any sleep or not because I was out like a light.

I've told him in the past that if he can't fall asleep by 11, he can take a Benadryl or a Simply Sleep if he hasn't been drinking. He didn't drink last night…

I know damned well he was going through withdrawals. He was probably going through withdrawals vs. feeling hung over during the day as well, but mentioning any of that last night wouldn't have been constructive, and would have made me a target of his anger. We've talked about this before, and you better believe we'll be talking about it again when he gets home today. Drinking that heavily for stretches and stopping cold turkey is dangerous…


The last three days have been miserable for me. I'm hoping that he can recognize that at least the last two are a red flags that he needs to get a handle on his drinking.