That is some very good advice and observations, Pookie.

You are NOT being selfish for wanting a little something for yourself.

Did it ever occur to your husband that the money that you received in your settlement, wisely invested, would ENSURE that he "wouldn't have to take care of you" if your condition (God Forbid) worsens in the future?

Think carefully on this...Couseling sessions with your husband, so that you each have an opportunity to discuss how your injury has affected you, your husband and the "we" part of the relationship, the dissapointments that you each experienced because of the injury, and future "expectations" with each other wold be extremely beneficial.

Is it possible, now that you have a nice settlement, that somehow your husband "perceives" that YOU no longer "need" HIM? ByHIM tying up all the money for "his needs", that would pretty much guarantee that you would HAVE to remain "dependant" on him...and also, he REMAINS IN CONTROL.

Just a thought.

Ihope everything works out for you. Because, YOU deserve to be HAPPY.

Most Respectfully,