I try that with my husband occassionally and rarely find success because he
would rather live with a certain degree of denial and I do not blame him.

Still, sometimes he needs to know the serious of the situation so he can
do /not do something.


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Lately I have been trying something different like this:
"Things with my situation are really serious, more serious than
we have discussed before, I need you to stay home today (or whatever it
is I need -- can't come up with better examples/situations right now).


He listens to my needs most of the time.

M