Hello Hart

Welcome to NT. You did the right thing getting an assessment and seeking the help you need. Please don't feel guilty - you are doing the best thing for both of you.

Maybe once your homemaker person gets settled into the routine you can use part of the time while they are there to focus on doing something special with your husband. If you can show him that having someone help out frees up time for you to devote just to him it might make him feel better and more accepting. Even if it's something simple as listening to music together, or making a special morning/afternoon tea and instead of jumping up to do another chore you can just enjoy the time spent together.

The other way to approach it is if he is pragmatic by nature is to say you've been contributing for years to health insurance and that this was what you have been paying all that money out for and it's time to use it.

Please try also to take some of that extra time to take care of yourself - it's very important that you don't get run down. How would your husband cope if you became unwell? I've known several carers this has happened to and it becomes an emergency situation when no support is in place and the person who normally does the caring ends up in hospital and their partner has to go into nursing care until their carer has recovered.

All the best for things working out.