'm glad that you reached back out to your nephews to wish them a Happy New Year, and Laurence wrote back. I hope they both understand that you were just hurt before

Try to see the 4 pounds as something to build on, rather than something temporary if you can. Being positive can only help


I tried the Felaway in the past. You're supposed to spay everyday, and I was too busy to keep up with it, and abandoned it. They weren't scratching while I was using it, but I wasn't using it for long enough to be sure it was the Feliway. I have plenty of time to spray now.
They've never scratched carpets, but Buddy and Dottie like scratching the box spring.