Debi,
As you know, I have been very much interested in your Mom and her somewhat decline. As a former smoker; that does not do much for her gaining weight. Also, I would assume you have to be very careful the cigarettes are completely put out.

Have you tried adding /mixing ice cream in her Ensure? Some time ago, someone very dear was dealing with a serious illness. His weight really dropped considerably. The good thing tho; he enjoyed his Ensure with the ice cream. I would mix it more like a milkshake.

Is your Mom still watching over you? I think since she wasn't doing dishes, etc., she felt maybe this was her contribution; keeping you company.

You and your family are very much in thoughts and prayers.

Gerry