I had severe post-partum incontence from my son's head compressing nerves that involve the bladder, and also shifting things around in there. It was very hard to manage emotionally but you can get big poise pads and even underwear to disguise it. It improved up to a point. Finally I told my Gyn and she evaluated it and I had surgery to fix it.

Now the methadone gives me hesitation instead! Be careful what you wish for?

Moral of the story is, talk to a urologist first. Rule out the simple (when you hear hoofbeats....) before going to the neuro (zebra). For the bowel issues, talk with a GI, they can make sure things are ok physically and help you at least with management (bowels can be trained).

Good luck!