jenny,
that was great of you to share your expeiences. i agree with all the ideas of therapy but i also have known many a woman, who trusted a man, and lost everything when they just up and left.
i have had many trials with my husband over my long journey through rsd land. at first we cried together and he was kind and helpful, and then he got sick of it because he realized that it was forever. we are both with seperate therapists now. i got really tough thanks to my therapist, and said therapy or out and i meant it. men do not deal well with things they cannot fix, and i was always hearing about how 'if' i had stayed working we would have this and that and do this and that ... well unfortuantely 'if' does not exist.
i will also add, that years ago, pre rsd, my husband was hmmm ...let me say 'acting up' and i pulled every cent out of the bank before he even thought of it. i had two children to support and he was not taking anything. so, it is sad, but we have to protect ourselves and our children first and foremost, rsd or no rsd.
keep writing, if you can't get therapy, we can at we last support you here. oh, and as for your daughter, she will adjust to whatever you are, kids are wonderful! i have six, soon to have 8 grandchildren, one living with me right now because 'non rsd' people cannot handle him! .... and so see, you are more than your rsd, and you have great gifts to offer your child. you cannot ride a bike, but you are her mom! and you are there for her! and that is the greatest gift of all. joan