Joan,
Just reading what you write, I know that you are a good mother and a great grandmother to your grandchildren. Iam sure they love you very much. I have always tried to be different from my mother. She hates the way I raised my kids. I think she is jeoulous that we are so close. She is also very ashamed that my grandchildren are spanish. If you saw my grandchildren you wouldn't belive how cute they are. It shouldn't matter what ther heritage is. I try to teach them about both sides of their families.
You said something about nightmares. I had awful night terrors. I wonder if its because of the way my mother treated me. They finally stopped when I had the twins. Always remember you are a good person and a great friend.

Love Sue