Please for your mental stability and your level of pain (as stress makes RSD flare up worse) sit your wife down and have a heart to heart with her. Print facts and stuff about this disorder.

rsdhope.org - has a great letter to family and friends.

My jaw dropped when I read your post. I am astonished that during the vows of "for better for worse, in sickness and health, spouses tend to do horribly during worse and sickness. This is a disorder and she needs to be your support (as well as friends who can also help).

Get counseling, ask her to go to counseling with you. Please make sure it is with an expert in RSD. Maybe having a licensed psychologist set her straight might help.

Hugs, I am glad you found this place and feel free to post with any and all vents, good times and bad.