i'm another rotator cuff surgery = RSD. i also was very, very active. actually, our stories sound a lot alike (except that i'm female ). i advise you to research as much as you can, talk to your wife - you should probably go to counseling so that you can have a mediator. maybe she should go to your dr. appointments with you so that the doc could tell her exactly what you are going thru. that is probably the best advice i could give because i was diagnosed 3 months ago and my husband STILL thinks i want attention. he refuses to read anything i give him and he won't look online.

empower yourself with knowledge. that is a surefire way to stay on top of things and help yourself cope.

shalom,
angie