youare right. I can't avoid conflict. On thursday when she comes in I will tell her she forgot to clean the bathroom and will chck before she leaves. I will do it without anger but if I don't do it the anger will grow and it won't work out anyways. I just don't understand. I am very good to her. I give her things. She doesn't have to do much. I even tell her she can go do shopping. she probably thinks i a a jerk