Sad about your mother, Kay.
Good luck with getting your husband to go through this stuff.
I hate the stress/b.s. that appt places put on renters for cleaning.
That have to re-paint and such anyway.
When I was probably in my early 20s, and ready to move, the place announced that I had to pay a "carpet" fee.
I probably got "manic" on him and nicely asked him to show me the original
paper work in which I agreed to a fee. We spent some time on the matter.
I absolutely made clear that I would not pay it.
He probably got the money from some other fee, but I felt like it was a "win."
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I know that this is an intense time. You seem to be doing well.
I wish you the best.
M