ConsiderThis,

I'm glad to see you.

Again I'll say, the moderators work as a team. They do not have the capability of banning, suspending, etc. They do not have access to members' personal information. They have agreed to be, and so far have been, out in the open. Decisions are agreed upon as a team (as many as can weigh in and who are online), and not by an individual moderator (unless it's a requested action by a member regarding their own post/edit). Moderators are accountable for any actions taken to their co-moderators and to administration. Also, you'll notice that I'm online alot.

Also, in mentioning decisions/actions, you'll find those to be different as well, I think. Suspensions are rare and after many warnings; bannings even more rare. If one posts something that needs to be removed, or addressed in any way, a PM will be sent in explanation...not a suspension...certainly not a banning (unless it's the obvious spammer).

Goals (as well as the practices) are different here regarding moderation/administration than they appear/appeared to be on some other sites, and many are working very hard to preserve everything wonderful about the OBT, but work on wanted/needed changes necessary as well. We're a "work in progress".

I've said this before, and I'll say it again...I know that only time is going to help with some things. I, one of the many, am dedicated to showing over time that things can be different. I realize, too, that my words can appear just that...words. I hope they become shared realizations based on shared goals over time.

I will share something without alot of detail...I know it's hard to trust after being hurt/injured/let down/uncared for. I'm a survivor of abuse. These things I do understand. Only time, and learning, helped me to trust and believe again. It's been more than worth it for me.

I've read of so much hurt, distrust and even fear. I hope that time and positive action(s) can alleviate those, as it can many things.

All my best,

KD