Straight UP, look out for yourself. I would not pay off the bills he incurred, I would pay 1/2. His daughters education expenses are not your, they are his and the mothers. Also, I never had to pay for schooling my children and they were exceptiopnal students?

He is playing yoy. HE loves you for what you can provide...a contribution over his head the roof, pay off some bills. THe most telling thing he said Tracy was, he can;t afford to leave you, so that has been on his mind.

I would feel he will make plans and have you out, when he is on his feet with your money. IF the check does not half come in his name, I would out it in your seperate account, get advise on investing some of it and then if you choose to help with the expenses you normally would have contributed too, without counting on this monies, then do that.

He is already planing and it is not in your best interest, it is HIS! Take the bull by the horns and don;t let your painful condtion money go to his needs and enable him to leave you high and dry when HE is done!!!!!

Get counciling Tracy, you need the support.
As you told him. there is the door....don;t tell you he has to stay financially, I would tell him to let the door hit him as he leaves.

I went through this in my first marriage, it was horrible to be taken advantage of and I never got over it.
My prayers are with you,
Dianne