It's really tough...towards the end I was praying for Sharon and Eileen's death...I found it impossible to cope with somebody's suffering....I am so glad you were able to hold his hand. One night Sharon was hemorraging(sp) and she didn't call me...I found that so upsetting that she was alone and she didn't want to disturb me. When I found out, I gave her a good talking to...and said what are friends for.
When he is feeling better, ask him maybe if it comforts him for you to be there for him....that might also relieve your pain.
Bobby