Mark,

You are so spot on!....but what I want to communicate to the poster is, The information people are trying to help you with, you might not even understand?

I like to call it cause and effect, it took me years to figure that out?....

I do have brain damage on top of my TBI, Im not stupid, but I am slow...

Dealing with this for 11 years I take what I know that kills me for granted, and like you said do X and expect Z outcome!....

To all, take it easy....make notes before and after a event/melt down...Find the pattern and have a strategy! dont mean to preach, but reach out.